May 13th, 2008

Dear Ask a Bitch,

~ If you are not in love with your spouse...are getting divorced and someone else comes into the picture during the transition, how often do those types of relationships work out?

-Lost in transition

Dear lost in transition,

~You pose an interesting question. First off there are no rules in love. Love can happen anywhere anytime any place, which is why it causes so many problems. Our advice to you is, be honest. Make sure both parties understand and are on board with what is going on. Make sure you are clear on what you really want. You’re ending a marriage it’s really easy to fall into something right away because you are use to having someone around. There is a level of security that a relationship provides. It can be scary as hell to suddenly find yourself alone. This being said, we feel, that unless you have such strong feelings for this new dude, you feel like you really don’t want to go another day without him, try going it alone for awhile. There is an awesome feeing of freedom and independence that you can have once you cut old ties. If this guy is truly that amazing, and could defiantly be the one, then he’ll wait for you. Take things slow. You have a lot going on; give it time to sink in. Also keep in mind that divorce can be very ugly and very hard thing to go through, you don’t need to make it more complicated than it’s already going to be. Not to be a cliché but it really is true what they say…everything in life happens for a reason and life really does tend to work out the way it’s meant to. So don’t lose faith, keep your chin up, and try to do what’s going to be best for you in the long run.

~Your bitches are here for you, keep us posted!

Love ya bitch,
L&V